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Friend Went To A Shady Sex Club Alone And Is Now Blaming Me For Her Bad Experience
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Friend Went To A Shady Sex Club Alone And Is Now Blaming Me For Her Bad Experience

I (26f) live in metro Atlanta. There's a sex toy shop in the city that also has an underground sex "club" that people can visit for a fee. Well... I've always been warned not to go by myself or other women because there are tons of predators at that place. If it's unsafe to go there even with a group, I'd rather avoid going there. My friend (28f) and I were chatting the other day and she asked me if I heard of the place. I said yes and that I was warned about the place. She perked her ears up, asked why, mentioned that she's been wanting to go for a while. I emphasized that I've been warned about the place, and she asked if I could be a bodyguard since I'm good at setting boundaries. I told her *again* that I'd rather not go to a place with a horrendous reputation. I'm not sure why she's so adamant about going and wanting me to come along. She tried to guilt trip me by saying "what if something happens to me if you don't come along?" I shut it down by saying "That's not my fault nor my responsibility. I warned you repeatedly. Stop guilt tripping me." Well I thought that was the end of it since she shut up about it. Guess what... She ended up going alone. Luckily she said she didn't go downstairs. She told me that as soon as she stepped her feet inside the regular toy shop, guys immediately started sizing her up and she ended up walking out of the store. She still tried to guilt trip me by telling me "it wouldn't have happened if you came along!" AITA for not going with my friend after repeatedly warning her?

Jonas Bergström
I Bought a $50k Guitar for $4k and Now the Seller Is Trying to Ruin My Life
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I Bought a $50k Guitar for $4k and Now the Seller Is Trying to Ruin My Life

This happened a while back. My wife and I still talk about it every once in a while. She's on my side and most of our friends and family are. However when it happened it was like WW3 between us and her co-workers and others. Here we go...I've been playing the guitar for 22 years. I know guitar values and whatnot very well. I'm very into the guitar market. At my wife's old company she was hanging out with co-workers one day after work and she mentioned that I play guitar. A co-worker who I guess is very popular at work said that his dad passed away and he was selling his dads things. His dad had a guitar and asked my wife if I'd be interested in it. My wife texted me and I said to have him send me the info on the guitar and the price. The next day he texted me the pics and price. It was a 1952 Telecaster in mint condition. He had the original receipts which was crazy! (That's how I knew the date). I asked what he wanted for it and he said he "looked up Telecasters online and he thinks $4,000 is fair". I texted back, "I'll take it for $4,000" and went to pick it up. The guitar had no sentimental value to him at all. Here's the issue at hand. The guitar was/is worth approximately $50,000 depending on the buyer and I knew it. When I got the guitar I told my wife the price and what it was worth. She was floored. Fast forward two weeks her co-worker tells my wife he just found out what the guitar was actually worth from a family friend and wanted it back. She said, "well he really likes the guitar and he knew it was worth $50,000 which is why he was floored you offered it to him for $4,000. He really likes it and I doubt he will sell it back, but you can ask." (Probably not the smartest thing for her to say, but she was caught off guard and it's not her fault or problem). He contacted me and asked to buy it back. I said that it's not for sale. He then said I scammed him and he was going to "sue me and take my wife to HR for being a part of the scam." Which was nuts, but he actually did contact HR. They were cool about it and said it's not their problem. It's between him and me. Over the next few months he made things very uncomfortable for my wife at work. He would bug her constantly about it. She eventually had to go to HR for harassment and they actually let him go (She complained twice and he was warned and didn't stop). He's contacted me several times about it so I got a restraining order for harassment too. I blocked him too. I haven't heard from him in about a year. AITA? UPDATE: Well this post blew up way beyond what I was expecting. It looks like I was voted Not The Asshole. There's over 5000 comments. I couldn't read them all, but I did read a lot. Just to clear up some things. I left somethings out because I didn't want it to influence opinions and really wanted it to be about me buying a guitar at significantly lower market value vs the people in the story. I did include the fact that the guy was harassing my wife at work not to make the guy sound bad, but because I thought it was relevant to the story. Here's some specific details I chose not to include: The guy and his dad were not close at all. So those people saying he was grieving and I took advantage of him, that is 100{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} not the case. When I went to get the guitar he was telling me he hadn't talked to his dad in six years and was actually annoyed he had to deal with a funeral. The dad bought the guitar new and never played it. Luckily it was stored in a closet and not in a basement or attic. There's no issue with the wood or electronics. It plays like a dream and I couldn't be happier. I am not selling the guitar to the son or anyone. It will be with me for a long time. I'm in my 30's so maybe in 30 years it will find a new home. I would have MAYBE considered giving the guy more money or giving him one of my guitars to sell on his own, but I decided not to do that after he left a terrible voicemail on my phone the day he found out the real value. He demanded it back like he was entitled to an object he sold fair and square, called me a POS, called my wife a POS and said he would "do bad things" if I didn't sell him the guitar back. And to those people who say they would have told the guy the real value. That's a load of horse shit. If you went to a garage sale/estate sale and saw an item worth $5000 priced at $50 there's not a snowballs chance in hell you would walk up to the homeowner and tell them they mis-priced it. You'd buy the item and then tell all your friends and family what a great score you got! Don't even kid yourself like you wouldn't do that. I don't feel bad about buying an awesome guitar at a steal of a price. I was curios what others would think and it looks like I'm not the asshole so thank you reddit. I can play the guitar with zero guilt now. Not like I felt guilty before, but now my feelings are justified.

Luca Moretti
Redditor Shares How Man Insisted on Sitting Next to Her on a Half-Empty Flight; Other Women Share Their Scary Experiences
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Redditor Shares How Man Insisted on Sitting Next to Her on a Half-Empty Flight; Other Women Share Their Scary Experiences

I (25F) had a flight. As we board, the gate agent says the flight is not even half full and they need us to spread out for even weight distribution. I was sitting in the middle seat and they kept repeating the flight was only half full, only 75 people on the flight. Almost literally the last second a man (50ish) walks on and states “ill sit next to you” not even asking so that gave me a red flag about him and I say “actually my husband is going to sit here”. The truth is I am traveling alone as a young woman I avoid telling people that. He states “then ill sit at the window” so I say “the flight is only half full theres tons of room” and he just stands there. So I move to the aisle seat to avoid a problem and he says “so wheres your husband?” I ignore him. He asks again “Should we have the flight attendants hold the flight for your “husband”?” with literal air quotes and I ignore him again. And he says “so youre just lying to me then? You’re probably a democrat” and I cant stand it anymore unfortunately and get loud saying “can you shut the truck up like who cares I dont owe you anything” and then he wont stop calling me a liar so I say “my husband is actually deployed in the middle east so you can mind your own business” (this is true) and a flight attendant comes over and asks me whats happening so I begin to explain and of course he talks over me so another flight attendant comes over and says I have to move. I look at her dumb founded because I was there first and I didnt cause the problem he did. So she says one of you needs to move or youre both off the flight. So I just grab my bag and move. When I walked to the back of the plane I was visibly shaking as I just told a creepy man I was traveling alone so the two flight attendants back there asked what happened. As I explained they seemed genuinely sorry that happened and they said they wanted to take care of me and prevent anything further from happening. Because of this I don’t think it fair to blame everyone on the plane.

Anya Petrova
My Ex Wants Me to Adopt His Daughter After He Destroyed My Life—I Said No
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My Ex Wants Me to Adopt His Daughter After He Destroyed My Life—I Said No

My ex and I share three children together ages 12, 11 and 9. Our marriage broke down bitterly more than 8 years ago. He had fallen for someone else. She was someone who had treated me like shit for months for what was then an unknown reason to me. But either they were having an emotional affair or a physical one but something was brewing between them. She took her anger at the fact he was married out on me and when he was finally honest and open with me, he allowed her to come into the home we had shared to tell me she was going to be my kids mom and she would take my life over. So things were not good for a long time and I have never forgiven him for how all of that was handled. Especially when I had a very difficult time after the birth of our youngest. Fast forward 18 months and they're married and she's pregnant. Ex is having a hard time getting our kids excited and happy and attempts to get me to play happy family with them for the sake of the kids. I told him the only positive thing I could do was say nothing at all, because I was not going to play friends or like a caring family member for them or their baby. When his daughter was born the mom bailed. Apparently she hadn't really wanted kids, just him, but realized he was never going to love her more than the kids. She died a little less than 6 months later. When he found out he wanted me to get involved with his daughter. He told me his ex wasn't coming back and he had three kids with two parents and one with just him. I told him I would never be that little girl's mother. Over the years I have attempted to get used to this little girl. She's innocent and my children's half sister. I am not playing a familial role but I am friendly around her and interact with her on occasion. Mostly I try to make things easier for my kids. Ex tried to remarry again but his daughter wanted a mother and the woman did not want to be one. So she's had a chaotic life. Ex has been suffering from some health problems for a number of years now. He's due to have a pretty big surgery to try and help. But he has nobody who can take care of his daughter while he's off his feet. He asked me. While also asking me he wanted to request that I be willing to become her guardian if something were to happen to him. This is where more hard lines were drawn and I said no. He begged me and I told him I did not want to raise his child or to look after her/spend that amount of time with her. He told me it would be better for her to be with me than friends of his who have no kids. He said it would be better for her to be with family. I told him there was no way. He tried to get our kids involved but they told him it would be weird to for her to live with us. I was pissed at him for involving them like that. We argued for more than a week. He called me an AH for taking this out on his child. Then I found out she knew. She looked so sad when I saw her last. And knowing what she's been through. I have to ask AITA? ETA: Some questions have been asked a few times so I feel like I should try to answer in my main post. Ex's family are not involved. They do not like each other. They do not have a relationship. They do not stay in touch. Last I knew they all live in different countries and have no interest in a relationship. The mom's family... it's complicated and I can't go into a lot but they are not involved and are not really suitable people to have around/raising a child. So they would not be around to take care of her either. My children are not close with her. They are not unkind. But they are far closer with each other than they are her and they don't have the same relationship with her as they have with each other. It's not even close to it really. The little girl in question is 6.

Elise Dubois
Daughter-in-law insulted my lifestyle so I kicked her out of my home for good
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Daughter-in-law insulted my lifestyle so I kicked her out of my home for good

I’m a young MIL, I’m only 39. Had my kids pretty young and I am very lucky that my husband makes a lot of money so I don’t have to work. I was a SAHM for a long time and once they started to spread their wings instead of going to work my husband and I decided I would be a home maker and be active in the community. That’s what I have been up to and I try to make the community a better place. Now my oldest son 22 married and I was really excited until I met her. In general she is a very business focus person that is very blunt. I actively dislike her but I try to be polite for my sons sake. A few examples of why I don’t like her, her wedding gift I handed over saying it was from me and my husband. She responded back with just your husband since I know it wasn’t your money that paid for it. Saying I am volunteering well that’s not a real job since it doesn’t make money. It’s passive aggressive and yes I have talked to my son about it and even once’s with her to try to clear the air. We had a get together last night and i made a homemade meal. When I was playing everything she came up and made the comment other no wonder I could make a home cooked meal I don’t do anything else with my day. I lost it and told her that she needs to respect me or ge the fuck out of my house. She was shocked and then started to cry when I did kick her out. My son is pissed and we had a huge argument and he called me a huge asshole. I need an outside opinion.

Luca Moretti
My Sister Demanded My Monthly Allowance Because She's Jealous Of My Lifestyle
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My Sister Demanded My Monthly Allowance Because She's Jealous Of My Lifestyle

My (26F) sister (32F) "Bethy" and I are both stay-at-home moms. I have 1F twins; she has three sons, 6M, 4M, and 2M. My husband, Micheal, is a master plumber who makes excellent money; he owns his own business, and I couldn't be prouder of him. I used to be a librarian; I have my MLS and bachelor's in Education. During the birth of our girls, on the way to the hospital in the ambulance, we hit a speed bump, and I was injured. I am now an ambulatory wheelchair user and attend physical therapy, as I am learning to walk again. I hurt from my hips down, but my babies are worth it. We decided I would be a SAHM after my first surgery, and my husband gives me $3000/month to use how I want to, as "payment for being such a good mom" We are extraordinarily blessed financially, and I'm happy being able to see my girls growing up. Bethy's husband, Jackson, is an elementary school teacher, but teaching doesn't pay much in our state. Bethy has been a SAHM for the entirety of her marriage and is used to having to scrimp and save for things. She asked me out for coffee recently and I accepted. I was chatting with her when I mentioned that our girls would start baby swim classes soon. I was happy the pool was wheelchair accessible. Bethy started ranting about how expensive swimming lessons are and how she could never afford to put her boys in swimming. I said I was also excited about playgroup this week, as I had been nervous to go the first time we had gone because none of the other moms and dads in the group used mobility aids. When I mentioned the name of the playgroup I go to with my girls, Bethy became angry because it's one of the more expensive playgroups. She was angry because "I knew money was tight." and "I didn't even think to invite her and Jackson's son because then she wouldn't have to pay for daycare. She then asked if my husband gave me an allowance. She was a bit angry, and people were starting to stare, so I said yes and asked her to keep her voice down. She wondered how much it was, and I told her. She asked if I could give it to her, and I told her no because I like to treat myself after my physio appointments, and I want to save as much as possible for a rainy day fund. Bethy said she and her husband have nothing but rainy days and left the restaurant without paying. I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I'm not helping her when I know I could. Still, when I asked Micheal he said that my sister could get a job and reminded me that I became a SAHM because it was something we agreed we were financially stable enough to do as well as because of my mobility limitations. He also said I deserve nice things and shouldn't have to give them up just because my sister wants me to. I feel conflicted, AITA? If more people think I am, I'll consider giving her the monthly payment; I feel guilty for not helping.

Clara Jensen
My Mom Humiliates Me With My Birth Story to Every Stranger and I Finally Snapped
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My Mom Humiliates Me With My Birth Story to Every Stranger and I Finally Snapped

Mobile so sorry for formatting I (15M) and my mother (39F) have similar names due to my mother naming me after her. I don't dislike my name at all. But the story behind it and how my mother constantly wants to tell it to the world is the problem. For backstory, I am her second child and for her first child, my older brother (20M) she wanted to know his gender, and she found out and named him. For me however, she decided to keep it a surprise, however, she for some reason was confident that I would be female and was dead set on naming me after her. Her name is Alexandra, so she would have named me Alexandra as well (fake names) When I came out male, she simply named me Alexander (fake name) However she would constantly tell everyone she befriended, if we were together, the story on how I was named. It embarrasses me to no end and I've told her over and over to please not tell that to every new friend her or I make. She even told all of my friends parents the story despite me asking her to not tell them (she wants to meet my friends parents for the first time if I want to sleep over for whatever reason) This all boiled down to Thursday when my mother and I went to the grocery store and as we were leaving a duo of Charity workers came up to us to ask us if we were willing to donate to their cause. My mother being the social butterfly she, sparked up a conversation with them. As the two introduced themselves to us, my mother followed suit and, of course, told them the story I dreaded she would "My name is Alexandra and this is my son Alexander, he was supposed to be a girl and take my name. But he came out a boy so I named him after me" I got a bit angry and told her "I really wish you wouldn't tell every stranger you meet on the street that, it makes me feel embarrassed and mad" It got silent and my mothers face twisted and just told the Charity workers that she'll donate next time and started walking to the car. The car ride home was silent and when we got home she told me that I really embarrassed her back at the store and that I should have told her something after we got in the car that I didn't like her telling that story. I've said to her that I've told her repeatedly that I don't like her telling everyone with a pulse that she befriends that story and that I got fed up with her blatantly ignoring me and my request to stop. She just told me to go to my room and to not come out. She of course told everyone in my family what I did and my stepdad and grandparents said I shouldn't have embarrassed her like that and to apologize to her. My brother and best friend told me I was right to call her out since I've told her many times to stop embarrassing me with that story and that she needed to learn what I felt. I do feel bad and want to apologize and talk to her, but at the same time I still feel like I'm right and that she needed to feel what I feel. So AITA?

Clara Jensen
WIBTA for telling my mother that I won’t look after HER other child for the rest of my life?
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WIBTA for telling my mother that I won’t look after HER other child for the rest of my life?

So I (21F) have one sister (23F), for the sake of the story we’ll call Amy, whom I love dearly but despite being older, has a lot less life experience than I do. She’s never had a job, I’ve been working since I was 15, she stays inside playing video games all day, I make an effort to be social, she still lives with our parents, I moved out as soon as I could. Amy’s always been mother’s favorite, our mothers has narcissistic tendencies and while Amy cradles her, I have a habit of sticking up for myself which obviously mother dearest didn’t like. They’ve always spoiled her, like how she got a PS5 the same year I went without a school laptop because they couldn’t afford both. I hate that in some ways it’s sort of made me resent my sister even though it’s not her fault, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t. Anyway, our grandmother passed away recently and my mother decided that I was to move in her house and pay the rates and the bills while they sell there’s and go live the “van” lifestyle for a while (this story would be 10x longer if I got into all that so I won’t) and that my sister would come live with me when they’re ready to go. The issue isn’t her living there, I do love Amy and we’ve gotten along as adults the issue is they’re building her a 10 grand art studio in the yard, let her pick the room in the house she wanted, along with everything else of our grandmothers, it didn’t matter how much it meant to me if she wanted it; she got it and all because “they want her to be happy”. Except I’m paying the bills, and the rates, and getting nothing but what she lets me have. There’s also the fact that I don’t want to live in this town forever, or take care of my sister forever. I need to be able to have my own life but our parent expect me to just…. Take care of their kid because they don’t want to anymore? And she can’t take care of ourselves because she’s never bothered to get a job or go to university? I understand that my parent want their own lives too but they’re the ones who chose to have kids not me. In my eyes if you choose to be a parent it’s a life long commitment even if the kids are adults sometimes things happen and you have to be prepared to look after them. Or at the very least they should be telling Amy she has to look after herself. I brought up the finance issues and they just said they’d put a trust in Amy’s name to help with the house, which is fine I guess but they’re still just spoiling her and not urging her to do something with her life. Amy makes a little money through art commissions but not enough to live and has some mental health issues that affect things, but I do too and I’m still trying to figure life out. I just don’t know what to do so Reddit, would I be the asshole for telling my mother I won’t take care of my sister forever?

Jonas Bergström
Roommate moved in his girlfriend and her kids without asking and now they are ruining my life
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Roommate moved in his girlfriend and her kids without asking and now they are ruining my life

My original roommate and I have a mutual friend who is our landlord. I moved in because he was struggling to pay rent, which impacted my best friend. He missed an entire month of rent, and my friend lowered his rent at his own expense to help him. I came in to rent a room to help out. To be clear, I paid more rent than my roommate knew because my landlord friend couldn't really afford the charity decrease. I can't tell the roommate because he would feel entitled to pay even less. I accepted this. But then the roommate got a girlfriend, and two months into the relationship, he moves her and her two poorly behaved children in. This is a 4 bedroom one bathroom place. The children scream and throw tantrums, and the mother is exceptionally demanding both to me, her boyfriend, and our landlord. She is costing money by finding every little thing under the sun to be fixed or replaced (the kitchen counters need to be replaced, etc). She takes up almost all of the

Luca Moretti
I Kicked My Boyfriend Out Immediately After Finding His Secret Search History
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I Kicked My Boyfriend Out Immediately After Finding His Secret Search History

My boyfriend, 19M moved into my 17F house about a month ago while awaiting his departure to boot camp. Everything was going good until yesterday. He was nice, caring and gentle and helped me when I was having issues with my family. I truly believe he was being genuine in his actions as well. But yesterday I opened his phone while he was out of the room and scrolled through Reddit. I checked his recently visited subreddits, because he's always been jumpy when I try to use his phone, especially to open Reddit. I found out he has visited several lolicon subreddits and various other pornographic subreddits. My biggest concern is the lolicon. He discussed suffering from porn addiction in the past, but I draw the line at children, even if they are supposedly not minors through some sort of loophole. I was also uncomfortable not only because of the contents of the porn, but because my younger sister 15F lives in our household as well. We have discussed in the past how his porn usage made me uncomfortable and he had promised to quit. I have trauma behind confronting men, so I elected to call him a few hours after and speak to him over the phone while I sat in my car. He seemed genuinely sorry and like he was truly suffering from an addiction, but admitted to seeking out and viewing the porn. I broke up with him and had my father drive him back to his home in a rural area, which he agreed was a good idea. My friend insists I did the right thing by electing to no longer speak to him and have him live in my home, but I can't help but feel that I messed up.

Elise Dubois
I Was In A Coma And My Ex Stole Our Baby's Name While I Fought For My Life
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I Was In A Coma And My Ex Stole Our Baby's Name While I Fought For My Life

I am still in the hospital recovering from complications after giving birth. My cousin is helping me write this because I am weak and we both feel like we need to set the record straight. My ex has been posting on Reddit about me and the baby and we saved all of his posts. Here is what happened. I had blood poisoning during labor and ended up in a coma. The hospital could only release the baby to a parent so she went home with him. While this was happening he was posting online about how he was the victim. He wrote that I was selfish, that I was controlling, that I was trying to erase him. He mocked the people who supported me. He said only bitter women and single moms agreed with me. He claimed he was fighting to be a dad while I was unconscious. The worst part is what he did with our daughter’s name. I had picked out a name years ago. Everyone knew it. He knew it. While I was unconscious he crossed it out and changed it. He gave her his last name and then bragged online about how he included us both. He was smug about it. My cousin saw him in the hospital smiling like he won something. That is why my cousin yelled at him. He was giddy about it while I was in the ICU. He even made another post asking strangers for cute nicknames for the baby because he said I would not let him have input. I was literally fighting for my life. He cared more about winning a power struggle than about me or his daughter. Then he made a long update where he tried to paint himself as some exhausted single dad. He said he was the one who got to bring the baby home like it was some prize. He said my family was harassing him. In reality we were terrified and desperate for information. He ignored us and acted like he was the only one who mattered. So yes I blasted him. I told people exactly what he did. I feel like he stole my daughter’s name while I was powerless. I feel like he used Reddit to try to get sympathy and make me look like the villain. Now he is acting like the victim again because we are angry. AITA for calling him out and exposing what he did while I was in the hospital?

Anya Petrova
AITA: my boyfriend read my diary without consent and got angry about past lover in there
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AITA: my boyfriend read my diary without consent and got angry about past lover in there

My boyfriend (21m) and I (21f) were studying in the library with our friends when he asked to use my computer for homework. I agreed since I wasn’t using it at the time and was chatting with our friends. After about 20 minutes I noticed his mood go extremely sour, and I tried to get him to look at me to figure out what was happening but he wasn’t having any of it. I just stayed talking to our friends to prevent it from getting awkward. He completely shut down. After we were done and left the library, I asked what was wrong. He told me he found a diary entry in my computer and read through it. That diary entry was from about a year before this, and I hadn’t met my current boyfriend yet. I had just had the best summer of my life, working at my dream summer job. So I decided to write about it to remember it. In this diary entry, I wrote about fun experiences, meeting new friends, and a fling I had that summer. It was short, and there wasn’t much to write, but I did put in some details about sex. And about how much I had liked him. My boyfriend was very upset at me after he read my diary, stating that I shouldn’t have kept that stuff. He believes I look at that diary entry all the time and relive the sexual experiences in it. I was very mortified to hear this because I felt I was the one who should be upset by that intrusion of privacy. And to be honest, I forgot about the diary entry and never opened it again after I wrote it. But he doesn’t believe me. I feel very heartbroken and betrayed and embarrassed. He feels jealous and disgusted I would keep such a thing. We’re both angry at each other and we haven’t come to any agreement in arguments. AITA for feeling like I did nothing wrong and I’m allowed to be upset that he read my diary without my consent?

Jonas Bergström
AITA for telling my best friend that she isn't the biggest priority in my life anymore?
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AITA for telling my best friend that she isn't the biggest priority in my life anymore?

My best friend (L) and I (both 22f) have been best friends since we were about 3. We have a large friendship group with 10 other girls. L has always been a massive part of my life. Her mother died during childbirth and her dad has struggled with alcoholism pretty much her entire life, so my parents always did their best to remove her from that situation as much as possible and we were practically inseparable as kids. L has always had pretty bad attachment issues, and really struggles to form connections with anybody outside our childhood friendship group. She has however been in a relationship for about a year and doing really well. This has never had a major impact on my life until this past year. In June of last year, I bought a dog with my boyfriend and obviously many adjustments came with this. I couldn’t spend as much time as usual with her or the rest of my friends but this had little impact on our ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

Anya Petrova
AITA for bringing up an embarrassing story?
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AITA for bringing up an embarrassing story?

A week ago I went out with friends and one (John) got so drunk they couldn’t walk. My friend was going to Uber John home but I said I’ll let him sleep at my place. When we got to my apartment John got out of the car, fell asleep in a puddle when it was raining like crazy. I had to drag him inside. I leave him there and he’s twitching his head and can barely move. He was dead weight. I went into another room and he peed himself. The next day John was extremely embarrassed. He said he was sorry he was a burden and thankful I took care of him. He made me take $50 to buy cleaning supplies and bought me breakfast then Uber to his car. He cleaned up too. I didn’t see him since until a friend had a dinner party. At the dinner party I kept saying “John had an uh-oh the other day, John why don’t you tell everyone” then he kept saying no and this isn’t respectful of his boundaries to keep pushing if he said no. Then I showed everyone a video of John twitching and passed out because I thought it was harmless and funny. John was like this isn’t the place and then I was like John tell everyone what happened. The next day John texted me “listen sorry I was a burden, but I didn’t intentionally do that. I think it was unnecessary and cruel you tried to humiliate me at a dinner party with all our peers” then blocked me. I didn’t think it was a big of a deal as he made it.

Elise Dubois
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AITA for not letting my mom control my life?

Hello everyone, I don't really know where to begin... I have been dating my fiancé for 4 years and have been living together. We are very happy and we can't wait to get married in August. My mother, however, doesn't want me to get married, at all. She wants me to get back with my ex, who turned out to be an addict, which was very hard for me and I did not have the capacity to deal with those struggles in my young life. She knows about this, and even encouraged me to break up with him. She has been protesting against our relationship from literally day 1, because he is Muslim. She has called him all sorts of serious insults, bizarre disturbing accusations (the worst you can come up with) and more, before he could introduce himself. My soon to be husband has been nothing but respectful, kind, patient and loving towards me. All my friends and colleagues love him, he sends me every 2 weeks flowers, showers me with love and gives me peace. So I haven't thought nor ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 💫

Anya Petrova
Woman's Story Of How She Took In Her Nieces And Not Their Dad After Her Sister Died Leaves Redditors With More Questions
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Woman's Story Of How She Took In Her Nieces And Not Their Dad After Her Sister Died Leaves Redditors With More Questions

My F,33 sister F,36 passed away a month ago because of cancer. It's devastating and words can't express how we feel. Her husband struggled to pay off debts and has asked me and my husband to take him and my nieces age, 13 & 16 in for some time. I have to say that I'm not on good terms with him. We've had more than our fair share of disagreements in the past. He tried to sue me and my husband for my own mother's house which I'm living in with my husband and daughter. but he claimed he needed money to pay for my sister's treatment and, this was the only way to get it after we (my brother and I) refused yo help. It's a long story but we're not on good terms. I agreed to only take my nieces in but not him. He tried to negotiate this saying his daughters are grieving and need him, their remaining parent to be around. I said he could see them during visits and that was it. My husband agreed with me at first. my brother inlaw showed up with my nieces days ago and I only let the girls in but turned him away after he tried to talk me into letting him stay. We had a huge argument and the girls went inside crying after their dad left repeatedly saying the want him. My husband is backing out of this saying we might be making a mistake seperating the girls from their dad when they're grieving. My aunt berated me saying I messed up entirely here. She called me selfish and bitter and said I'm making it more difficult for the girls who just lost their mom. Now the girls are quiet but my 16yo niece keeps arguing about wanting her dad with them. My husband still thinks we're making a mistake and getting the girls to resent me to what I did to their dad who's grieving.

Elise Dubois
My husband has a history of sketchy behavior. What I just found on his phone made me throw up.
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My husband has a history of sketchy behavior. What I just found on his phone made me throw up.

This is my second marriage. We've been together two years. I have two kids from my previous marriage, and we have a four-month-old baby together. My husband has a history of sketchy behavior. A few examples: during a fight, he drove somewhere at night, then Ubered to a massage parlor at 9:30 PM. At his bachelor party, he tried to meet up with another girl. Another time, he went to a strip club knowing I don't tolerate it. So when he left his work phone on my nightstand, I went through it. I'm not proud, but every time I've looked, I've found something. This time I found a hidden folder. It was filled with screenshots of women—bikinis, cleavage, workout videos of women we know bending over, squatting. Some were friends' wives, an old coworker, a close friend of mine, even a mom of a kid on the sports team he coaches. The screenshots dated back to last year, with the most recent three days ago. I took photos of everything with my phone. When he got home, I stayed calm and showed him. He stuttered and laughed, then finally said, "...okay, what about it?" He said he didn't know why he saved them—he'd just see boobs and screenshot without thinking. Said it wasn't personal and he didn't use them to jerk off. I don't believe that. I told him this was creepy and borderline predatory. I asked him to delete everything and unfollow those women. He agreed—but only if I deleted the proof from my phone. He eventually apologized multiple times, said it was gross behavior. I appreciate that he owned up. But I still have the ick. I know this isn't my fault. I've given him everything. But now there's a voice in my head saying I'm not enough. And I hate that he's the reason for that. We were about to put an offer on a house, but I pulled out until I process my feelings. He's been in the dog house and keeps telling me to stop letting a "dark cloud" hang over us. I told him I'm allowed to feel how I feel.

Anya Petrova
AITA for keeping my life the same now that my dad's married and his wife wants us to be a family?
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AITA for keeping my life the same now that my dad's married and his wife wants us to be a family?

My mom died when I (17m) was a baby and my dad didn't step up so my maternal grandparents did. They helped take care of me for dad and when I started school I'd go to their house until 7 or 8pm those days. The older I got the more time I spent with them. I technically lived with my dad but he wasn't a very good dad and he didn't ever try to be one. Without my grandparents I'm not sure where I would have been. Probably neglected and taken into foster care if my dad was the only person in my life. His family aren't the best so I never spent much time with them. I still spend any free time I'm not hanging with friends, with my grandparents. I go to their house every day. I'll eat dinner with them and lunch and dinner on weekends if I'm not busy. I spend holidays with them and sometimes I just spend the night there. We talked about me moving all my stuff over but on a weird chance dad would be thinking they could try for child support, we didn't want to rock the boat. My dad started dating something 3 or 4 years ago. I don't pay that much attention. She moved in with him in May and they got married in September. She has kids. I don't know the first thing about her or her kids. But she's attempted to spend time with me and she's attempted to invite me in. I told her I was good and didn't want to get involved. Her kids will also try to hang out with me and asked me to go do stuff with them. Dad goes with them for "family time" and his wife has tried to include me but I always go to my grandparents instead. I had a three day sleepover with my grandparents for Christmas. Before I left my dad's wife told me she wanted me to stay and be with the family for Christmas. I told her I was going to be with my family. She said she and her kids wanted to get to know me and be included in that. I told her she was nice but I wasn't interested and she should have figured it out when she didn't meet me when she was only dating my dad and I was never involved in that. She said we could still make something great and I said no. When I got back from my grandparents house she was clearly annoyed but kept out of my way. Some of her family were visiting for dinner and I went to my grandparents again. She approached me afterward and told me I could try to spend some time with them and make room. She said it makes her and her kids feel like shit when I won't change even the smallest thing to try and make this work. She said all they wanted was for us to be a family and she knows my dad hasn't been the greatest to me but I could have her and her kids. She said she saw from my face I didn't want it but wanted me to know none of it was their fault and the least I could do was give them some time. AITA?

Jonas Bergström